“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”— Martin Luther King Jr.
Life is a puzzle isn’t it? Things happen and you just have to stop and wonder what puzzle piece your being handed to solve the whole picture.
I wrote about how my fear of rats turned into a love for the creatures and I saw their value of their life. Sometime later a wild rat decided to take up residence in the engine of my husband’s parked car. In one night it tore out insulation, chewed wires and built a home. It created a home that caused transportation problems for my husband, financial spending and spare time being used towards the fixing of the problem. My husband works hard and doesn’t have spare time so his day off was then sacrificed to fix what the rat had damaged.
He set a trap and caught the animal. But what piece of the puzzle was the Universe handing us? What can we learn from the experience? Then the answer came!
My husband was getting burdened by work, depression, and bad attitudes. Inwardly he possessed the rat. It was causing problems and although I have an abiding love for my husband, his attitude would cause ripples in my life as well. His lesson was to watch for the rat within that is destructive and a snowball in creating more stress, financial and less spare time. “Catch the rat before it hinders his life”
My lesson was the lesson I learned from my rat Emily. Not to take it personally. To look past what I see and search for the true value that I know is there. To look past the physical and focus on what I know is true. Depression affects all that love the individuals along with the individuals themselves. The people afflicted with depression needs to isolate things singularly and work to overcome rather than on a whole. The loved ones needs to (and this is the hard part) look past the depression and the attitudes it creates and destroys and put aside anger and focus on their love. Visualize the person victorious over the depression and as you believe it your attitude starts reflecting it that helps the depressed individual and it also starts opening your mind to new solutions to try to help the individual.
Depression is debilitating to the one that is depressed and the ones around them. Speaking from the side of the one who loves someone who suffers from depression I can honestly say lots of times I feel like giving up and just living my own life without the hindrance of the rat’s destruction. I become disabled and the desire to write or to communicate to others leaves me. My passions for new goals become stagnate. My life starts appearing as hopeless as the one facing the depression. But when the rat is isolated then I know my true role is to be the one that shows unconditional love and to not take it personally. To continue the vigil of meditating for my loved ones and seeing them in a positive light to support them in their hours of need.
My husband was so happy that he caught the rat this morning and in truth this morning he had caught his own inner rat that was causing him anxiety by recommitting to a path towards a more positive look on life.
My quandary is this. Is depression a form of fear that is not resolved? Is depression a form of a fear of your life not matching your potential or not achieving your goals in life?
Do you suffer from depression or are you a support system for someone who suffers from it? What approach do you take to defeat it? Do you think it comes from a fear?